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The person i've been calling my "soul mate" just broke up with me. How do I deal with this?!?!?

The past year I grew extremely close to someone, and over the summer we travelled together and stayed with eachother. We grew extremely close and were deeply in love with eachother.Over the past weeks he's been acting strangely, but he told me he's just worried about starting school again as we're going into the final part of High School and that work would be very hard to deal with. I also told myself that must be the problem, as we have been telling eachother we would NEVER let anything come between us, and would NEVER hurt one another. We swore it was forever. I believed every single word and took it to heart. And he just called me to tell me that he doesn't feel the same way anymore. He said that he still wants to, but he just doesn't have feelings for me anymore.He told me over the past few weeks hes been trying to see me in that way, but for some reason he just cant. AND NOW THE PERSON I LOVE THE MOST DOESNT LOVE ME BACK. WHAT DO I DO? I cant explain how much this hurts. plz help
This is one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with. I WANT to be with him still and i don't know why his feelings have faded. I WANT him to love me again but I'd rather he tell me the truth. and EVERYTHING reminds me of him. We have the exact same cell phone, we have the same classes, and EVERYTHING in my house reminds me of him. We spent time together in every single room and I can't escape remembering him. I WANT HIM TO LOVE ME AGAIN. BUT SINCE THAT DOESNT SEEM POSSIBLE I WANT TO GET OVER HIM BECAUSE IT HURTS SO BAD AND I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY AGAIN. but what's ironic is that he's probably the only person who can make me happy. I CANT picture myself with ANYONE else anymore because I've been with him and I've slowly come to tell myself that it was ME AND HIM FOREVER. I CANT DO THISS PLEASE HELP ME.
and by the way you may have not been expecting this, but...
i'm a guy. formerly 100% straight up until this. until this screwed me up.

Public Comments

1. Yes it hurts now. May hurt for a long time, Ultimately though would you rather find out sooner or later that he doesn't feel the same way? Might as well get it over with now so you can enjoy your senior year.

2. first of all. go talk to a close friend about it. they will understnd
and try to cheer u up. hopefully they can help. and one day
i think ull find a better soul mate. u just have to wait. and if the
one u loved is ur true soulmate. maybe he'll realize and come back

3. I am sure that many are reading this and realizing that they have a tendency to go out with the guy or the girl who treats them badly, the one who doesn't love them back. Everyone has this tendency but in different degrees. The key here is to know that we can fall subject to these thoughts, but we don't have to---especially once we become aware of them. Of course, if this is what he is dong, there is nothing you can do to change him. You can change yourself, though.

Be patient. You never want to win someone by being mean or even playing games. Just be yourself, and if this seems to be an impossible feat...move on. Which, I must say, it seems like it is time to do. Who knows---there is probably a sweet and wonderful guy just waiting for you to get a clue. And, by the way, one of love's best jokes is that once you fall in love with someone else, guess who will come around.... You got it!

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