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Do you think it will be difficult for me to find a man who will not want any children??

i am honest here, i do not want any children. they are too much for me to handle, i cant imagine having such a responsbility, and i love my freedom. i want to travel a lot when i get older. however, i would like to have a nice marriage and soul mate future husband....everything that comes with marriage except children.
all the guys i have liked and been with, they have all said they wanted children in the future. that is very discouraging for me, because lets just say i stayed with such a guy, i would feel forced to have children simply to please him....and i would never stay with a guy who wants children that i wouldnt give to him, i wouldnt be able to stand the guilt. the truth is, i dont want any kids. it seems as though every guy wants kids...i dont think i might ever find a guy who doesnt want children.

what do you think?? has anybody else experiencd this??

Public Comments

1. It's possible to find such a person. But chances are, if you get married with that person, somewhere down the line, at least 1 of you is going to want a child. Good Luck tho.

PS: Cindy, being European has nothing to do with it. I can testify for it being European myself (living in the US). If anything, Europeans are more family oriented than Americans.

2. unfortunately man is an animal and most males feel the need to try to procreate. now im not saying u'll never find a guy that doesnt want children, but most guys do. And about the children thing never say never who knows how you will feel in 10-15 yrs down the road

3. Ya you can date my boyfriend! He wants no kids. There are lots of guys who dont want them.

4. Please get out of my mind. LOL. Same here! Only difference is that i don't want a husband either, just somebody to have sex with. LOL. You WILL find someone and if not then relocate to Europe, good plan cos Europeans are different and more understanding about these kind of things.

5. If you are really serious about this, your best chance would be looking for a single man who works with married men and hears all the tales from his colleagues about the duties of married life with children, and to note the increased amount of time off work they have to take to look after their children. His mind may be set on not having children.

6. My friend felt like you until she was 28... she is now a very happy mum of 2!!

7. You and I have something in common, but are quite a long way apart in ages. So you might find it difficult to find someone, as I have found out. Good luck with your quest.

8. It shouldnt be that difficult most men are only children in big clothes anyway. If its because of your career then you can chose if you want kids or not and if its a personal choice remember its yo9ur body its up to you what happens with it so just be homest with them and tell the men you meet that you dont want to have children straight up and if they run away then its their problem not yours but the right man is out there for you.

9. you can have my husband!!! i don't want kids at the moment but he despises them....i would love to have kids one day but he's very honest about his dislike for them.

i guess i'll find out where my marriage is going when i'm ready for children. i'll let you know :/

i'm half making fun of myself but i'm also half mad about this.

10. No problem, there are men who think like you do