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Why do people think its "weird" not to want kids???

I recently made a eu.3,000 bet with my mother that I will never have kids and because she doesn’t believe that I’ll keep the bet and multiply someday, and neither does anyone else, my friends ask me "oh why don’t you want kids?!?! they're sweet and cute and its just normal to have them!" I myself (do not hate) but strongly dislike kids, I’ve been thinking about it a lot and how much I rather have exotic, travel-full adventures to see the whole world, like the ancient ruins of machu-pichu in Peru, and the great wall of china, and mountain climbing the Transylvanian alps, before god ends my life instead of at going to some boring job, coming home to feed some three-four little kids, changing them, cleaning them, and going to sleep. day in and day out. But why is it so “strange” not to want to go through the pain of hours of labour, only to come home and not have any time for your husband or yourself? Plus kids cost so much, its not even funny. From paying hospital bills to paying college tuition and everything in between. Instead of owning a small condo in some beautiful European city for 2 people and using all the extra money for vacation travels, you have to get some house in the suburbs to raise kids, pay for school, pay child insurance and college ect. To me it sounds like an obviously better life, but everyone tells me that no European guy wants a girl who dosent want to have kids for him? Is that true? Because I don’t want kids, yet I don’t want to spend my travels alone.
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Public Comments

1. 1. How old are you. You may change your mind once your biological clock starts ticking. Although, it'll probably be better to just sell your eggs off at that time than deal with kids you might not actually want. That way someone else can raise them.
2. Get your tubes tied and you automatically win the bet!

2. i feel the same way. not a week goes by where i dont say 'boy am i glad i dont have kids'. one of my favorite sayings is that most people should not be breeding....im 29, by the way.

3. How old are you? Just because you don't want kids now doesn't mean you wont want any in the future. Do all the thing that you want to do, but I would say to you try to change your mind about that. Having children is one of the most fulfilling things a woman can do. Unconditional love from a child is something that everyone should experience. It is not uncommon in recent times for women to start later in life so just think about that.

4. My sister said she never wanted kids, but when she married the right guy quickly changed her mind.

My mom has only one friend that never had any kids, but her husband left her and she didn't think she could do it on her own. You know the working and raising at the same time. She also didn't like kids a whole lot, but everybody tried to tell her that if it was her own child it would be a different thing.

That being said, it is a personal decision, and nobody can tell you whether or not to have kids. It's really none of their business anyway.

5. I don't want to have kids either. My mum says I will change. I love kids but I don't think I could handle the responsibility. I have four pets and it's hard to take care of them and still have a life.
It's ok. Travel the world. Sounds like fun. I wish I could.

6. when you put it that way then S*it I'm never having kids either!! i think that people have this maternal instinct and a lot of girls grow up playing with dolls pretending that they are real. some people i think never think of the option of Not having kids. I have thought about not having them as well but it scares me because it is such a normal thing to do. but what if i have them and have regrets-that would make me feel terrible. id love to want kids because i feel like i inevitably will one day and i want to want them. i think that your decision is fine, especially with your attitude towards it. if you dont want one, why would people want to push you in to it only to have you not like them?

7. who cares you may or may change your mind and that isnt really isnt true. so thats just your friends maybe you should get new ones jkjkthats just what you think its not weird.

8. I feel 100% the same way! I want to go to Egypt and discover some tomb or see the ancient Mayan ruins. Why would anyone choose kids over that? Why would you want little kids with you everywhere giving you headaches? Maybe people think it's weird because some people are born with a motherly instinct or something. You know how you get that feeling that some people would make wonderful mothers and fathers, maybe some people don't have this. For example. you and me.

9. ok ppl think its weird b/c kids are a presious gift from above and there so cute and stuff
but heres the reality kids are a handful and they cost alot of money dont get me wrong they are great but u have to b patient and all that
and heres an idea if u dont want to b alone on ur travels get a boyfriend (they are so much less money) lol
also not all guys want kids just a healthy relationship with someone some cant even have kids so dont worry

10. i'm 36 and i won't be having any.most people are lousy parents that end up with savages for offspring.cats are better!!!

11. I feel exactly the same way! And so does my fiance of 5 years (not getting married until we graduate college and can save up enough money for the perfect wedding we have always dreamed of). Yes thats right i found a guy who doesn't want children as much as me. If i can do it you can do it too! There is a child free man out there somewhere for you. Not all guys want to buy minivans, change diapers, wake up at all hours of the night for a screaming kid, loss of privacy, deal with a pregnant hormonal woman, see annoying kids toys all over the house, potty train, ABC's, getting kids ready for school, deal with school functions, sleepovers, crying, tantrums...you get the idea.

I know you don't want kids but you also don't want to travel alone. I doubt it would come to that, but i would rather travel alone than never get to travel! It would be so much worse being stuck in the house with 2 annoying kids waiting for relief when dad gets home and even then they swarm him.

Its not strange at all to not want to go through what people say is the worse pain imaginable. Plus it does a number on the under carriage (or so some husbands and boyfriends have told me) I want my life to be full of fun, pleasure, privacy, relaxation, and adventures. I want to avoid as much pain and discomfort as humanly possible, and i will. so will you if you really want it

12. get real
everybody says that and 16 years later oooh! look a baby
I bet your mom will win the bet.
she will

13. falk the stupid birch above me. i think its a great idea, get a hysterectomy (get fixed) at a young age and take in all that sweet money and go on vacation with your love right away!

p.s to the arss above me, i would really hate to see any children with those traits of yours, you should get fixed too before you poison the world with your horrible genes.